Administration - January has been filled with Tax statements and updating NYS CE-200 status
The assistance from Ann Taylor in preparing our Year-end Giving statements and verifying addresses for mailing these out before the end of January took a couple of hours and working through the NYS website to recertify our CE-200 eligibility status (which allows us to participate in any/all NYS fairs like the SEFA fair) took an additional couple of hours. I also prepared a tax statement for those folks who are making material donations and wish to use it for tax purposes. (And also to thank them for the donated items.) This is not as generic as we might see from a place like the Y but still it is written on letterhead to make it different from our thank you notes for cash donations, which of course we recognize at the end of the year with a tax statement if the gift falls into those categories making it necessary for a detailed receipt.
In other news
We have found a lot of people wishing to make material donations of goods either in response to a specific call from the shelter (like for blankets or Chrome Books) or just in general for clothing, coats, underwear and personal care items. Gretchen and I have made more than six trips with full car loads of goods, and Gretchen has been to a shelter more than 5 times delivering these same things. She went to one of the shelters while I went to another making the delivery of the Chromebooks. Here Lauren is smiling under her mask!
I am working with Mother Anne on a presentation to the American Baptist Women on February 27th via zoom. The initial promo poster they had, listed Mtr. Anne as the Executive Director and she let them know of the change. Hopefully, we won’t confuse them too much. I will let you know how the presentation goes. Also, Gretchen and I are scheduled to meet with the director (Maggie) of the Saratoga County DV shelter program, Wellspring, on March 9th at 3:00.
In the meantime, I’d like each of us to think of ways we might begin presenting ‘workshop’ materials online so that we do not go any longer without offering respite and tools to both/either workers or victims.
Each day this year, Healing a Woman’s Soul’s volunteers have helped individuals & families in our community suffering because of domestic violence. Our volunteers have offered counseling, advocacy, and prevention education programs that can transform lives. With your partnership we hope to do even more in 2021. We don’t know what 2021 will look like, but we do know we will find new ways to come together and offer respite to those in need.
Help us achieve our vision of creating a world free of violence & abuse by giving your end-of-year gift to support our life-changing programs and services.
Thank you St. George’s for your generosity filling over 70 gift bags! We ran out of bags.
“And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love.” - 1 Corinthians 13:13 (NKJV)
Did you know?
• Domestic Violence happens every 15 seconds in the United States.
• One in four women are victims of domestic violence in their lifetime.
• Domestic violence is the single major cause of injury to women.
• Only about 48% of all violent acts are reported to the police.
• Domestic violence leads to children becoming abusers or victims themselves.
Is it about physical violence? Not always. It’s about control in one or all of these ways: spiritual, physical, emotional, financial, sexual, isolation, intimidation and child abuse. Everyone should know about it and know how to get help. If you are in danger or need assistance, there is help available.
Many thanks to St. George’s parishioners who donated over 70 filled holiday gift bags for women and their children who suffer from domestic abuse. Your generosity during this difficult time for all of us was amazing! The bags were blessed during our Healing Service on December 16th. The Executive Director of HAWS (Healing a Woman’s Soul), Maggie Hasslacher, and Board Chair, Gretchen Coyner, attended our service and we helped them fill their van with the bright red gift bags. The bags were delivered before Christmas to area shelters in the Albany Episcopal Diocese being served by HAWS.
One of the signature efforts of Healing a Woman's Soul is providing retreats for women suffering from domestic violence. The opportunity to come together with others who understand and hear practical advice and receive comfort make lasting differences in the lives of those who come. The retreats are offered to all who wish to attend regardless of their ability to pay.
Dear Friends of Healing a Woman's Soul, Inc.,
These last few months have been different and difficult times for so many in our country. Workers, seniors, children, businesses, and especially victims of domestic violence have struggled. Although some of our in-person programs have been postponed, our volunteers and board members continue to support individual victims and shelters in the Greater Capitol Region.
Below, see some of the things we were able to do through the support and donations of people like you.
And after you read these short stories, visit our website and donate to help our mission of ending Domestic Violence, one Woman at a time.
What we have been doing
Coronavirus and violence at home
"In this corona era, many local communities are reporting up to a 50% decrease in 911 calls in general but a 20% increase in domestic violence calls. There is no surprise here. When we first heard the news of orders to shelter in place, many of us immediately thought about what that would mean for women and children who are battered or sexually abused in their homes. Basically it meant being locked up with one’s abuser, having limited access to help from the outside, and limited opportunity to escape." ~ Shelter worker
Look on the Healing a Woman's Soul website for resources and emergency hotline numbers.
Did you know there are children in shelters?
One generous donor filled two car loads with toys and educational materials for children in the shelters.
Local shelters have said that with children in school remotely, there are needs for them to be able to work on their classes while they are in shelters. Computers, School supplies and desks are in demand.
We have been looking for donations to assist them with these needs.
Your Donations Matter
Your donations allow us to continue assisting women and children.
See the HAWS donate page to choose how you can make a gift.
Thank you for your partnership and financial support. May God Bless you in these uncertain times.
Photo: Nicholas Nelson/EyeEm/Getty Images
As told to Irin Carmon
Crystal is 27 years old and one of the many people globally for whom staying at home during the pandemic didn’t automatically mean safety. She considers herself lucky, though, that she escaped her abusive partner and the father of her three children just a few weeks before the coronavirus shutdowns, and has been living in shelters ever since. Since the beginning of the pandemic, advocates have worried about a drop-off in reports to hotlines and to the police, which could mean those in abusive situations don’t feel safe to even call for help — or that they think a shelter could be worse, given the risk of the virus. Meanwhile, people like Crystal, who did get out in time to rebuild their lives, face a devastated job market, closed government agencies, and homeschooling without access to their prior support networks.
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Over the past two months, The Legal Project has been offering our Legal Clinic Program virtually, through ZOOM video conferencing – with much success.
By offering our Legal Clinic Program virtually, we can reach more of the community, especially those living in rural areas and our disabled and senior population. As a result of offering legal clinics virtually, participation has increased 20%, which means that there have been less no shows. This is due to the flexibility that our Zoom video conferencing account offers: these clinics are available to those who have the technology (computer/laptop, iPad, smart phone) and internet as well as those who prefer to participate by telephone conferencing using the traditional land line telephone.
Though, we are uncertain how long we would be offering the legal clinics virtually before we are able to safely return to our clinic sites, i.e.: Albany Housing Authority, Albany, Castleton, Troy, and East Greenbush Public Libraries, Ballston Spa and Mechanicville Community Centers, HATAS, Stratton VA, YWCA of NENY, and various law firms; The Legal Project is committed to offer pro-bono legal advice to our community.
I would like to ask for your help in getting the word out that we have launched our Virtual Legal Clinic Program and to please refer those who need our assistance to The Legal Project. If it makes it easier, I have attached our program flyer, and this can be posted to your social media site (if you have one). At the very least, the attached flyer provides information on how you can refer someone to this program.
Thank you for helping to spread the word, your assistance and support are very much appreciated!
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DEAR ABBY: Is my daughter headed into an abusive, controlling relationship, or am I imagining the signs because of my own experience with domestic abuse for many years? She is 18 and, of course, parents are "idiots" who don't understand anything. The young man tries to control where she is, won't let her go anywhere without him, and suspiciously questions her if he thinks she spent too much of her own money.
To me, these are signs of the beginning of years of hell, but to her, they're cute because he "cares," or I don't understand him. Am I being unfair because of my own past?
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Domestic Violence Calls during social-distancing are increasing, according to local law enforcement officers.
With Isolation, abuse activists fear an ‘explosive cocktail’
“Safer at Home.” It’s a slogan of choice for the mandatory confinement measures aimed at curbing the spread of the coronavirus. But it’s not true for everyone. s the world’s families hunker down, there’s another danger, less obvious but just as insidious, that worries advocates and officials: a potential spike in domestic violence as victims spend day and night trapped at home with their abusers, with tensions rising, nowhere to escape, limited or no access to friends or relatives — and no idea when it will end… n cities and towns everywhere, concern is high, and meaningful numbers are hard to come by. In some cases, officials worry about a spike in calls, and in others, about a drop in calls, which might indicate that victims cannot find a safe way to reach out for help.
On a normal day, 1,800 to 2,000 people will call that national hotline. That number hasn’t changed, but that doesn’t surprise organizers. After natural disasters like earthquakes, Justice says, it’s only when schools and workplaces reopen that people are finally able to reach out.
More significant, she says, is that more than 700 people who called the hotline between last Wednesday and Sunday cited the coronavirus as “a condition of their experience.” Some of the out-of-the-ordinary anecdotes staffers are hearing include abusers preventing their partners from going to their jobs in health care, or blocking them from needed health care services or from accessing safety tools like gloves or sanitizer.
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If you need help, see our resources page for local and national hotline numbers. Check out the helpful links here
Become aware of your breath.
Breathe in. Breathe out. Breathe in. Breathe out.
Bring your breathing under control. It’s hard. We’re in uncertain times, uncharted waters. Our breaths might be short, panicked. We may have forgotten to breathe all together.
Breathe in. Breathe out. Breathe in. Breathe out.
Slowly, read Psalm 46:11: “Be still and know that I am God!” God is speaking to you. How do you respond?
Be still and know that I am God.
God of all people, my faith is tested during this time of pandemic. Your houses of prayer and worship stand empty: Can we gather together without contracting disease? Can the most vulnerable members of our human family — the elderly, the sick — come to pray without fear?
The answer to these questions, it seems, is no.
Be still and know that I am.
God, I know that you are here, even if I sit alone in my home. Just as you appeared to Moses in the burning bush, you appear to us now, in surprising, unsettling ways.
I may not find you where I expect you — my community, the Mass, the Eucharist — but give me eyes to find you in new places: livestreams, Facetime and quiet solitude.
Be still and know.
God of the sick, God of the vulnerable, give me clarity to see through the noise and clutter. Grant me serenity that I may have a level head with which to weigh the information I am given. Sustain me with fortitude that I may have the courage to learn all I need to know about this disease that plagues our world.
I do not want to give in to fear, panic, hysteria. But I do want to make good decisions, for myself, my community and my world. Help me to do so.
I know that I have to change my daily life, my daily routine. I know that I can no longer come and go as I wish. In this Lenten season, remind me of the spiritual significance of fasting: setting things aside to make room for you, God, and for the common good. Give me a spirit of fasting as I confront this disease.
May I see these moments of stillness — moments that I am not out at bars, restaurants, events and activities — as opportunities to encounter you. And as my small yet important contribution to the common good of our world.
I feel as though there is so little I can do to bring about an end to this crisis. Grant me the wisdom to simply be, to sit, to rest, to watch and to trust that your hand is at work, guiding and protecting medical professionals, scientists, first responders and government officials, as well as my neighbors, particularly those who are most vulnerable.
Breathe in. Breathe out. Breathe in. Breathe out.
Posted from Eric ClaytonEric Clayton is a senior communications manager at the Jesuit Conference.